I’ve been hesitant to write about the tragic news of two recent suicides due to abortion regret. It’s important that people are aware of the tragedies of abortion, but its also important to mourn each loss and honor the lives and the families of those whom have been lost.
When you’re daily bombarded with information about such gross tragedy it’s easy to throw the information behind a closed door in your mind. We all have a room in our consciousness labeled “injustice.” Since we know what’s behind it we don’t have to open the door or look inside for very long, we can just point to it and say (often without feeling), “It’s not right!” It is just a part of human nature to take things which are hard to deal with and reduce them to facts, figures, and information.
But in situations like these, I feel that I owe it to them to pause and look at the situation before filing it away. I feel that there are times we all need to open the door to these painful realities, and step inside for a while. We all need to remember that these are not just facts, figures, and information. These are fellow human beings, who have lived lives of joy, pain, triumph, and defeat; who took their first steps and their last. We need to weep with those who weep, or we run the risk of hardening our hearts and not only missing the point, but doing absolutely no good.
It’s one thing to be offended and outraged at injustice. It is another entirely to be “wounded” by it. You can be on the “right side” and not “in the right” at all. If we don’t have compassion, love and empathy, at best we succeed only in stirring up the pot. At worst, cold, calloused and judgemental activism alienates, causes pain and shame, and could be the final straw in someone’s battle against depression.
If we allow indignation and anger to take the place of tenderhearted compassion, we are as wrong and as willfully ignorant as the ones who call a child a “fetus” and condemn them to die. In both instances we cover the truth up with words that bolster our pride and justify our unrighteous actions. You can “eliminate” a glob of cells without remorse as easily as you can shame and condemn a woman for her views on abortion and call it “outreach.” We need to look at our hearts and actions and seek the counsel of others to make sure that we are being righteous and not self-righteous.
The first report of an abortion-related suicide was of Australian TV Star Charlotte Dawson. According to her autobiography she struggled with depression since her abortion more than 14 years ago. Soon afterward it was reported that Charlotte Coursier, (a young british student) ended her life following a breakup after suffering post-abortion depression for a year.
Charlotte, the female form of Charles has been one of the most popular names in the UK and Australia for many years, that they both share the name is likely just a coincidence. If not, Charlotte can mean many things, including “free man,” “strong woman” and “little girl.” If there is meaning in the names of these women, my interpretation is that anyone can be affected by tragedy and injustice; man, woman, or child.
If there is meaning in their deaths, my interpretation is that while we fight against abortion, we must never forget to fight for the restoration of the ones who suffer as “collateral damage.” We cannot be content to walk about in a blind rage against injustice, we must see the wounded and hurting ones around us and meet them in their need in a real, personal and practical way.
Although pro-abortion individuals claim to have everyone’s best interest at heart, they invalidate as well as condemn those who suffer from post-abortive depression and trauma. We are not only just as wrong as pro-abortion activists, we are worse if we become too wrapped up in our activism and outrage at injustice to reach out. When we take the time to listen, love, and support we become the very act of mercy which restores justice and brings healing to wounded souls. How many opportunities to minister to the hearts of these women were passed by because of fear or ignorance and self-centeredness?
We will never be truly successful as a pro-life movement until we understand that abortion is a comprehensive injustice, affecting not only little girls and boys, but women who think they are strong and men who think they are free. We will never be truly successful as a pro-life movement until we are willing to open the door to the pain of injustice, and open our hearts to the ones who have suffered at it’s hand.
Pray with us today for the ending of abortion and for the restoration of the lives it’s impacted. Pray with us for your heart to be softened to the pain of injustice, and ask the Lord to open your eyes and your heart to others around you who are in need.
Most of all, don’t just pray with us today, love each other fervently and do so with a pure heart. Today choose to give love, mercy, and compassion where it is not deserved because you received love, mercy, and compassion which you did not deserve.